If you've been trying to figure out how to attract women, you just need to know that you need to make a connection with them to be able to start anything else. Teasing, negging and all the other techniques that other gurus talk about will be useless without social comfort. When you've been shot down, it's not the end of the world.
What went amiss? You followed the everyday pick-up advice - Begin with a good opener and follow it up with joking. The place where you failed is that you didn't get any social comfort going. Rapport is a critical part of the opener and without it you have got nothing.
Social comfort is a part of any encounter. It is the initial stage where individuals are sizing one another up, wondering what each other want, wondering if the other person's normal and things like that. They need to see if the individual's comfortable or more of the serial killer sort. Social comfort is your basic "normal detector."
Your opener may not be enough to establish social comfort. Building a comfortable atmosphere needs more than a well-said opener. It should be there to fill the space in between stories or during the lull in the conversation.
To construct social comfort, show her you're comfortable and fun. You're not weird or overtly aggressive. You're the sort of man who, if someone asks her about you, she'll say you were just a cool man. You do not want to begin hitting on her, but just give her the impression that you're a cool, non-strange person.
Building social comfort comes right after the opener and right before attraction. There are lots of ways to learn how to do this, but on the whole you want to conversation to flow easily and you don't want to be hitting on here. You should never seem boring and there should not be any pauses or clumsiness. Most guys can improve their social comfort with women by just being more socially comfortable generally. Hang out and talk to people until approaching them is no trouble.
But when you approach a hot girl, it is important to keep yourself in check. Keep in mind that you do not begin doing any attraction tactics until your rapport is solid. This is the first step in how to attract women.
What went amiss? You followed the everyday pick-up advice - Begin with a good opener and follow it up with joking. The place where you failed is that you didn't get any social comfort going. Rapport is a critical part of the opener and without it you have got nothing.
Social comfort is a part of any encounter. It is the initial stage where individuals are sizing one another up, wondering what each other want, wondering if the other person's normal and things like that. They need to see if the individual's comfortable or more of the serial killer sort. Social comfort is your basic "normal detector."
Your opener may not be enough to establish social comfort. Building a comfortable atmosphere needs more than a well-said opener. It should be there to fill the space in between stories or during the lull in the conversation.
To construct social comfort, show her you're comfortable and fun. You're not weird or overtly aggressive. You're the sort of man who, if someone asks her about you, she'll say you were just a cool man. You do not want to begin hitting on her, but just give her the impression that you're a cool, non-strange person.
Building social comfort comes right after the opener and right before attraction. There are lots of ways to learn how to do this, but on the whole you want to conversation to flow easily and you don't want to be hitting on here. You should never seem boring and there should not be any pauses or clumsiness. Most guys can improve their social comfort with women by just being more socially comfortable generally. Hang out and talk to people until approaching them is no trouble.
But when you approach a hot girl, it is important to keep yourself in check. Keep in mind that you do not begin doing any attraction tactics until your rapport is solid. This is the first step in how to attract women.
About the Author:
Jon Sinn is the creator of the Seduction Roadmap, a groundbreaking program that teaches men all over the world how to seduce women.