Most people get stuck in a rut at some point in their life. Circumstances or challenges may become overwhelming or a person may begin feeling that they just can't escape a problem. In many cases, this results in depression and feeling like a victim. It is very easy, in this state of mind, to slip into a negative cycle that feels impossible to overcome. However, it is possible to stop being a victim and take control and create a new and more positive reality if you begin by making a few simple changes in your perspective.
YOUR ATTITUDE
A person with the attitude of a victim attracts individuals who will be happy to make them a victim. A great part of self defense training for women is to learn to walk with confidence. Muggers rarely attack a woman who is walking with shoulders straight, head up, and a confident gait. A very famous, and wealthy woman once said that if you want to succeed in life "you must fake it til you make it".
A positive attitude does not mean that you ignore challenges, but rather that you look at them realistically, acknowledge them, and move on with confidence. It is impossible to have a positive attitude and a victim mentality. Therefore, taking the first step in changing your reality is to change your attitude.
Re-Evaluate Your Goals
Goal oriented people often sink into deep depression when they have reached goals, until they create new goals. If you have never set goals, or if you are between goals, putting short-, mid- and long-term goals on paper will have a tremendous impact on your attitude and your direction. It is important to re-visit your goals and change them as you progress and to celebrate when you have reached goals.
TAKE TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR SUCCESS
The brain cannot hold onto negative "victim" attitudes and positive attitudes at the same time. When people have a victim attitude, they often do not acknowledge their successes or think about their past successes. In order to successfully overcome a victim mentality and recreate your reality in a more positive way, you need to treat yourself like you would your best friend. People have a tendency to be very harsh and judgmental with themselves, this is not a way to build self-esteem in a friend and it is not a way to build self-esteem in yourself. Make a decision to treat yourself like your own best friend and, while acknowledging and learning from mistakes, don't hang onto them or beat yourself up with them. When you begin to feel like a victim, look in the mirror and give yourself positive affirmations. Talk to yourself as you would a friend, "I'm here for you and you are going to be ok. I am the best friend you will ever have and I'm gonna support you."
THE CONCLUSION
When you have the support of someone who cares, even if that person is yourself, you will find that it is much easier to be positive and begin attracting the positive events and actions that are all around you. When you begin treating yourself like your best friend, like someone who is valuable and loved, you will find that other people will begin to care about you as well. By taking control of your attitude and concentrating your efforts on the positive things in your life and the proactive steps you can take to change the negative, you will attract positive energy and events that will help you stop being a victim.
YOUR ATTITUDE
A person with the attitude of a victim attracts individuals who will be happy to make them a victim. A great part of self defense training for women is to learn to walk with confidence. Muggers rarely attack a woman who is walking with shoulders straight, head up, and a confident gait. A very famous, and wealthy woman once said that if you want to succeed in life "you must fake it til you make it".
A positive attitude does not mean that you ignore challenges, but rather that you look at them realistically, acknowledge them, and move on with confidence. It is impossible to have a positive attitude and a victim mentality. Therefore, taking the first step in changing your reality is to change your attitude.
Re-Evaluate Your Goals
Goal oriented people often sink into deep depression when they have reached goals, until they create new goals. If you have never set goals, or if you are between goals, putting short-, mid- and long-term goals on paper will have a tremendous impact on your attitude and your direction. It is important to re-visit your goals and change them as you progress and to celebrate when you have reached goals.
TAKE TIME TO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR SUCCESS
The brain cannot hold onto negative "victim" attitudes and positive attitudes at the same time. When people have a victim attitude, they often do not acknowledge their successes or think about their past successes. In order to successfully overcome a victim mentality and recreate your reality in a more positive way, you need to treat yourself like you would your best friend. People have a tendency to be very harsh and judgmental with themselves, this is not a way to build self-esteem in a friend and it is not a way to build self-esteem in yourself. Make a decision to treat yourself like your own best friend and, while acknowledging and learning from mistakes, don't hang onto them or beat yourself up with them. When you begin to feel like a victim, look in the mirror and give yourself positive affirmations. Talk to yourself as you would a friend, "I'm here for you and you are going to be ok. I am the best friend you will ever have and I'm gonna support you."
THE CONCLUSION
When you have the support of someone who cares, even if that person is yourself, you will find that it is much easier to be positive and begin attracting the positive events and actions that are all around you. When you begin treating yourself like your best friend, like someone who is valuable and loved, you will find that other people will begin to care about you as well. By taking control of your attitude and concentrating your efforts on the positive things in your life and the proactive steps you can take to change the negative, you will attract positive energy and events that will help you stop being a victim.
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