Most of us have wonderful memories of the first few weeks of a new romantic relationship. Every date was an exciting event. The anticipation of getting together again ... planning something interesting to go do together ... waiting to hear when and where you would meet. So, what happens when you have been with that someone for years? Too often we get married and gradually allow that dating, romantic magic slip away. You may not want to admit it, but the T.V. relationship experts are right: Even married people should be dating.
Too Many people feel foolish about the notion of keeping a relationship fresh, even passionate, by asking their wife, husband or life partner for a date. Why? Dating this person you are committed to can easily become of the best thing you have ever done for your relationship. The interesting thing about dating is that it NEVER gets old. Not sure how to go about this dating thing? Has been so long since you have been on a date you have forgotten how it is done? Let me offer some help:
First, give some thought as to where to go. Be original. Consider what interests your husband/wife may have such as theater or music. Stay away from the places to would go normally such as places you've taken the kids for dinner. This is a date and it needs to be special. How about a picnic? Or, a visit to a local art's fair or museum? Second, be formal when asking for a date. Be personal and face to face, or, there is nothing wrong with a love note with a request for a date.
Never underestimate the power of a love letter. Especially a love note that asks for a date. Leave the note somewhere your husband or wife will find it. Leave it on the counter before going to work, slip it into a brief case or a coat pocket. Once the invitation has been accepted, spend some time discussing the details of your date. Flirt. Create some anticipation. When it's time for your date, dress up a bit. Even consider a new shirt or pull out that dress he use to be crazy about. This is special.
Once you are out on your date keep the conversation to fun and interesting subjects. No talk of work; avoid all talk of money or bills; never take this as an opportunity to resolve some old issue. You are on a date. It is about having fun (and reconnecting with your lover). Any topic you can talk about that brings you closer together is excellent. Ask questions and listen to the answers. Make a point to hold hands, touch often and be respectful. Too often, over time in a marriage, we tend to forget the importance of these simple things.
When you have been with someone for awhile, dating is about rediscovering what attracted you to your husband/wife/partner in the first place. When the kids are out of the house and it is just the two of you, it should never be awkward with you asking yourself who this other person is in your house. Once you start dating your lover again, you may discover it is a cornerstone to your happy and fulfilling, passionate relationship. So, what are you doing this weekend? Interested in keeping your relationship passionate?
Too Many people feel foolish about the notion of keeping a relationship fresh, even passionate, by asking their wife, husband or life partner for a date. Why? Dating this person you are committed to can easily become of the best thing you have ever done for your relationship. The interesting thing about dating is that it NEVER gets old. Not sure how to go about this dating thing? Has been so long since you have been on a date you have forgotten how it is done? Let me offer some help:
First, give some thought as to where to go. Be original. Consider what interests your husband/wife may have such as theater or music. Stay away from the places to would go normally such as places you've taken the kids for dinner. This is a date and it needs to be special. How about a picnic? Or, a visit to a local art's fair or museum? Second, be formal when asking for a date. Be personal and face to face, or, there is nothing wrong with a love note with a request for a date.
Never underestimate the power of a love letter. Especially a love note that asks for a date. Leave the note somewhere your husband or wife will find it. Leave it on the counter before going to work, slip it into a brief case or a coat pocket. Once the invitation has been accepted, spend some time discussing the details of your date. Flirt. Create some anticipation. When it's time for your date, dress up a bit. Even consider a new shirt or pull out that dress he use to be crazy about. This is special.
Once you are out on your date keep the conversation to fun and interesting subjects. No talk of work; avoid all talk of money or bills; never take this as an opportunity to resolve some old issue. You are on a date. It is about having fun (and reconnecting with your lover). Any topic you can talk about that brings you closer together is excellent. Ask questions and listen to the answers. Make a point to hold hands, touch often and be respectful. Too often, over time in a marriage, we tend to forget the importance of these simple things.
When you have been with someone for awhile, dating is about rediscovering what attracted you to your husband/wife/partner in the first place. When the kids are out of the house and it is just the two of you, it should never be awkward with you asking yourself who this other person is in your house. Once you start dating your lover again, you may discover it is a cornerstone to your happy and fulfilling, passionate relationship. So, what are you doing this weekend? Interested in keeping your relationship passionate?
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