When a woman you've sent a message to sees it in her inbox what is the first thing you think she will do? I can tell you in most cases she will take a look at your online dating profile before she takes a look at your email. With women it's often a matter of drawing conclusions about you from what they can observe. That's why they take a look at your profile and decide if they think you're the type of guy who has the things she's looking for or not, and they will delete your message or respond to you based on this. That's why you're profile is vitally important. Now, I actually believe what you don't put in your profile can end up being more important than what you do, so that's what I will focus on in this article.
Negativity
I know you don't walk around being Mr. Positive all day. Negativity is a part of life that we all have to deal with, but putting it on your profile as a first impression will put you in the un- dateable category. A woman is thinking if negativity is peeking out of this guys profile, offline he is probably more negative than Mel Gibson after a three day drinking binge. Remember, women infer a ton of stuff, they read between the lines, so you have to write and present yourself with that in mind.
Sarcasm
I've realized through countless efforts to use sarcasm in online dating, either in my profile or in email exchanges, that it is usually hard to convey it properly online. To communicate sarcasm effectively we really need our body language, facial expressions and vocal tone. Therefore I recommend not using sarcasm at all.
Self Depreciation (too much)
A self depreciating comment here and there shows humility, and that you can laugh at yourself. Too many shows you may really dislike yourself and use constant humor about it as a way to cover it up. Now I personally wouldn't include any self depreciation in your profile. If you insist on doing it, I would limit it to one comment at the most. If you do this, make sure you sound confident and sure of what you want in the rest of your profile.
Talking about ex-girlfriends
Women will automatically assume you are still hung up on her, and whether you are or not in reality, that's not going to help your dating life any. I would venture a wild guess and say you aren't over your ex if you're talking about her in your online dating profile.
Sexual innuendos or talking about sex
You don't need to include anything about sex or make any innuendos about it. You will look like a desperate creeper, not an attractive, sexual man. Since women already know men want sex and think about it often, you really don't need to include it in your profile.
Wishy-washy statements
"I don't know why I'm on here." "I don't know what to say." "I don't like describing myself."
In surveys with women lack of confidence is often rated as the biggest turnoff. These types of statements will set off her no confidence alarm with lightning speed. Definite sounding, confident statements, are the way to go. Get rid of all the wishy-washy comments that make you sound unsure of yourself.
Whining or complaining
Women usually don't want to hear men whine or complain, they want that all to themselves:) In all seriousness though, I know women find this to be a major turn off, and it will have them scrambling to get away from your profile faster than Michael Vick trying to avoid a sack.
Leave these things on the cutting room floor of your profile, and not in the final product, and you'll be pleasantly surprised with the drastic increase in responses and dates.
Negativity
I know you don't walk around being Mr. Positive all day. Negativity is a part of life that we all have to deal with, but putting it on your profile as a first impression will put you in the un- dateable category. A woman is thinking if negativity is peeking out of this guys profile, offline he is probably more negative than Mel Gibson after a three day drinking binge. Remember, women infer a ton of stuff, they read between the lines, so you have to write and present yourself with that in mind.
Sarcasm
I've realized through countless efforts to use sarcasm in online dating, either in my profile or in email exchanges, that it is usually hard to convey it properly online. To communicate sarcasm effectively we really need our body language, facial expressions and vocal tone. Therefore I recommend not using sarcasm at all.
Self Depreciation (too much)
A self depreciating comment here and there shows humility, and that you can laugh at yourself. Too many shows you may really dislike yourself and use constant humor about it as a way to cover it up. Now I personally wouldn't include any self depreciation in your profile. If you insist on doing it, I would limit it to one comment at the most. If you do this, make sure you sound confident and sure of what you want in the rest of your profile.
Talking about ex-girlfriends
Women will automatically assume you are still hung up on her, and whether you are or not in reality, that's not going to help your dating life any. I would venture a wild guess and say you aren't over your ex if you're talking about her in your online dating profile.
Sexual innuendos or talking about sex
You don't need to include anything about sex or make any innuendos about it. You will look like a desperate creeper, not an attractive, sexual man. Since women already know men want sex and think about it often, you really don't need to include it in your profile.
Wishy-washy statements
"I don't know why I'm on here." "I don't know what to say." "I don't like describing myself."
In surveys with women lack of confidence is often rated as the biggest turnoff. These types of statements will set off her no confidence alarm with lightning speed. Definite sounding, confident statements, are the way to go. Get rid of all the wishy-washy comments that make you sound unsure of yourself.
Whining or complaining
Women usually don't want to hear men whine or complain, they want that all to themselves:) In all seriousness though, I know women find this to be a major turn off, and it will have them scrambling to get away from your profile faster than Michael Vick trying to avoid a sack.
Leave these things on the cutting room floor of your profile, and not in the final product, and you'll be pleasantly surprised with the drastic increase in responses and dates.
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