When you find yourself in the beginning of a love relationships you may often be so caught up in the moment that you actually forget that the other person has a life of their own. When we begin to invest deeply into a relationship we may feel that our life never really had any meaning until you met this person. Once we begin falling in love, whether for the first time or the hundredth time, we carve spending time with our new love.
A powerful romantic phase may continue for weeks and months. You may start to distance yourself from your friends in order to spend time with Mr. or Ms. Wonderful. After all, this person is your universe, your better half. It may seem like every hour you think of them and when you do, you get this strange blissful feeling. He or she calls you all day every day. A call in the morning before you go to work. Another call mid day to see how your day is going. Another call before you leave work for the day to arrange another dinner. You know his or her schedule and patterns. You want this romantic whirlwind to go on forever, just as it is. Ah, oh! There you are doing it. Trying to put love in a box. And, that will never work.
Love and relationships need to grow, mature. Love relationships are dynamic. Relationship cannot be put into a formula, or held back, or ... well, put in a box. One day he or she does not call. When they finally call they may tell you that they only have a few minutes. Hmmmmm, you think, this is not like them.
The questions that you may begin to ask are: Why didn't they answer my call? Is something wrong? Are they interested in someone else? The questions can go on and on. Keep in mind, some doubt is normal, but excessive worrying is a habit that must be broken. This is because if you let you insecurities run wild your relationship will likely become damaged. In order for this to be avoided you have to let your new relationship cool naturally. Just take it easy. You need to relax and take a breather and evaluate yourself for a moment. You have to make yourself realize that you cannot put love inside a box and keep it the same way forever. You want to be loved (as everyone does) but you have to try and understand that relationships have to evolve.
It should be noted that in order for you to have great love relationships with your partners you must not forget the connection between your friends and family. It is important that you reconnect with all those you may have set aside during you fits of infatuation. If the person you are desiring wants to come together then you should happily oblige but do not overdue it. Take everything at a slow and reasonable pace making sure that you have time for your friends, family and partner. Take into account the things that you may need to change to help better the relationship as well as its high points. The first big step is wanting to do it, so I invite you to slow down a bit and open up the box you have securely placed on you and your partner. Everything will eventually unfold for you in due time.
A powerful romantic phase may continue for weeks and months. You may start to distance yourself from your friends in order to spend time with Mr. or Ms. Wonderful. After all, this person is your universe, your better half. It may seem like every hour you think of them and when you do, you get this strange blissful feeling. He or she calls you all day every day. A call in the morning before you go to work. Another call mid day to see how your day is going. Another call before you leave work for the day to arrange another dinner. You know his or her schedule and patterns. You want this romantic whirlwind to go on forever, just as it is. Ah, oh! There you are doing it. Trying to put love in a box. And, that will never work.
Love and relationships need to grow, mature. Love relationships are dynamic. Relationship cannot be put into a formula, or held back, or ... well, put in a box. One day he or she does not call. When they finally call they may tell you that they only have a few minutes. Hmmmmm, you think, this is not like them.
The questions that you may begin to ask are: Why didn't they answer my call? Is something wrong? Are they interested in someone else? The questions can go on and on. Keep in mind, some doubt is normal, but excessive worrying is a habit that must be broken. This is because if you let you insecurities run wild your relationship will likely become damaged. In order for this to be avoided you have to let your new relationship cool naturally. Just take it easy. You need to relax and take a breather and evaluate yourself for a moment. You have to make yourself realize that you cannot put love inside a box and keep it the same way forever. You want to be loved (as everyone does) but you have to try and understand that relationships have to evolve.
It should be noted that in order for you to have great love relationships with your partners you must not forget the connection between your friends and family. It is important that you reconnect with all those you may have set aside during you fits of infatuation. If the person you are desiring wants to come together then you should happily oblige but do not overdue it. Take everything at a slow and reasonable pace making sure that you have time for your friends, family and partner. Take into account the things that you may need to change to help better the relationship as well as its high points. The first big step is wanting to do it, so I invite you to slow down a bit and open up the box you have securely placed on you and your partner. Everything will eventually unfold for you in due time.
About the Author:
This article is co-written with Relationship Coach Traci Price. For professional relationship advice, anytime, go to Love Coach Line or call 1-800-639-3396.
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