Getting dumped is rarely a fun experience. It is made even worse when you're still in love with with your girl and need to get her back. But how does one go about trying to get a girl back? There are so many strategies out there to help you attain your target, the difficulty is knowing which of them to try.
You only have one chance at getting your girl back after a break up, so you have to make the most of it. Although there are numerous techniques you can employ, there are four main steps that often work the best. Some tweaking could be needed but they provide a good bedrock for your efforts.
1. Recognize. Accept that you relationship has come to a close. Too many people attempt to deny this fact, try and adhere despairingly to their girl. This is not going to help you. By accepting that it is over you can make attempts to work out why it is over.
Look at your relationship and try to find out where things went wrong. Try to see things from your girlfriend's point of view. If you can figure out why she left, you could be able to fix those issues so that when you finally return to her, you will not just be repeating past screw ups.
2. Give it time. Patience is a virtue, one that you really need during this process. You will not fix your relationship over night and if you rush you may struggle to get your girl back. Instead give both yourself and your girlfriend the time you both need to organize your thoughts and feelings and come to terms with the split.
Use this time positively. Instead of waiting around tapping your foot and dwelling on the break up, go out with pals or delve into a new spare time pursuit. Using this time to boost yourself not only helps you, but also your chances of getting your girl back when the time comes.
4. Don't beg. This is a big step that you will need to adhere to without fail. No girl would like a fellow who begs for her to remain. We have all been there and know how tempting it is; you are feeling frantic to keep her and you may try anything. But despite that, you can not stoop to begging. It will just have the opposite effect and drive her away.
5. Re-engage. When you feel you've done all you are able to, and given it sufficient time, you can re-initiate contact with your ex girlfriend. Don't be too assertive, treat this as though it was a brand new relationship. Show her the new you, the changes you made and attempt to get her back.
It can be tricky to get a girl back, and there isn't any guarantee technique to achieve success. There's always the danger that your work will be in vein and she is going to refuse to come back. But if that happens then you only need to accept it and move on with your life. Find someone else to be satisfied with and live your life.
You only have one chance at getting your girl back after a break up, so you have to make the most of it. Although there are numerous techniques you can employ, there are four main steps that often work the best. Some tweaking could be needed but they provide a good bedrock for your efforts.
1. Recognize. Accept that you relationship has come to a close. Too many people attempt to deny this fact, try and adhere despairingly to their girl. This is not going to help you. By accepting that it is over you can make attempts to work out why it is over.
Look at your relationship and try to find out where things went wrong. Try to see things from your girlfriend's point of view. If you can figure out why she left, you could be able to fix those issues so that when you finally return to her, you will not just be repeating past screw ups.
2. Give it time. Patience is a virtue, one that you really need during this process. You will not fix your relationship over night and if you rush you may struggle to get your girl back. Instead give both yourself and your girlfriend the time you both need to organize your thoughts and feelings and come to terms with the split.
Use this time positively. Instead of waiting around tapping your foot and dwelling on the break up, go out with pals or delve into a new spare time pursuit. Using this time to boost yourself not only helps you, but also your chances of getting your girl back when the time comes.
4. Don't beg. This is a big step that you will need to adhere to without fail. No girl would like a fellow who begs for her to remain. We have all been there and know how tempting it is; you are feeling frantic to keep her and you may try anything. But despite that, you can not stoop to begging. It will just have the opposite effect and drive her away.
5. Re-engage. When you feel you've done all you are able to, and given it sufficient time, you can re-initiate contact with your ex girlfriend. Don't be too assertive, treat this as though it was a brand new relationship. Show her the new you, the changes you made and attempt to get her back.
It can be tricky to get a girl back, and there isn't any guarantee technique to achieve success. There's always the danger that your work will be in vein and she is going to refuse to come back. But if that happens then you only need to accept it and move on with your life. Find someone else to be satisfied with and live your life.
About the Author:
Karen Holland is a relationship coach and columnist, writing about popular relationship-healing manuals like Getting Her Back For Good by Michael Webb and The Magic of Making Up by T-Dub.
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