Labels and dating, they go hand in hand. People always put their own prejudices out there, putting a label on you for just being you. If you want to be cautious when dating, you are called frigid. If you want to be more outgoing, then you are a player. It really is quite ridiculous.
These types of label are many and varied and they are a problem. They make you feel like you need to justify your dating decisions. It can go further than that too. They can change your decision making process putting you in situations you don't want to be in. They can put you off dating altogether.
Today we are going to review the label "The Player". One of my friends has semi regularly been called a player. I can even remember in a conversation when a woman commented "yes, I don't understand it. Everyone calls him a player, yet no-one has ever seen him "playing"." It was a comment which I thought to be very telling in today's society.
Why is it that a man who is interested at improving himself romantically, who discusses his experiences with the intent on improving himself, is labelled a "player"?
Women are much better at discussing their romantic life with each other than men are. Therefore they are much better at learning from each other. However there are groups of men who have set up little communities, with the simple aim of learning how to better interact with women to produce a more mutually beneficial and enjoyable dating experience.
As women tend to discuss things much more openly and honestly among themselves, they are much better situated to learn about men, than men are to learn about women. Women can learn from each others experiences whereas men must learn from their own experiences only.
I believe there are two factors which contribute to this. Firstly, men are pressured by women along the lines of "a gentleman never kisses and tells". This expectation exists and is held dear by all the women who are quite happy to meet their friends and discuss even the most intimate details of all their experiences. There really is a lack of balance here. Secondly, men are often very competitive among themselves, particularly when it comes to women. This causes meaningless banter and bravado when they'd be better served with honest communication and the exchanging of ideas.
This is a big issue. Learning about dating, women and romance through open communication with like minded men will mean you will obtain the knowledge to create a more harmonious dating experience. Its a win-win situation, no-one is worse off. You discuss openly, you learn from the honest sharing of ideas, you become wise and through the application of that wisdom, you create joy. Its important men learn to do this for both themselves and the women they love. Yet strangely, the men who do this already are called "players".
So, if you are a single man, you probably know already what I mean. If you are interested in self improvement, particularly when it comes to meeting and dating, you are not a player so don't be afraid. Just find some other men who are already doing this and all will be fine. There are communities of men who are doing this already and have joined together specifically to improve themselves in this manner. The key to this though is to always do it in a manner that is compassionate to the women you are dating.
These types of label are many and varied and they are a problem. They make you feel like you need to justify your dating decisions. It can go further than that too. They can change your decision making process putting you in situations you don't want to be in. They can put you off dating altogether.
Today we are going to review the label "The Player". One of my friends has semi regularly been called a player. I can even remember in a conversation when a woman commented "yes, I don't understand it. Everyone calls him a player, yet no-one has ever seen him "playing"." It was a comment which I thought to be very telling in today's society.
Why is it that a man who is interested at improving himself romantically, who discusses his experiences with the intent on improving himself, is labelled a "player"?
Women are much better at discussing their romantic life with each other than men are. Therefore they are much better at learning from each other. However there are groups of men who have set up little communities, with the simple aim of learning how to better interact with women to produce a more mutually beneficial and enjoyable dating experience.
As women tend to discuss things much more openly and honestly among themselves, they are much better situated to learn about men, than men are to learn about women. Women can learn from each others experiences whereas men must learn from their own experiences only.
I believe there are two factors which contribute to this. Firstly, men are pressured by women along the lines of "a gentleman never kisses and tells". This expectation exists and is held dear by all the women who are quite happy to meet their friends and discuss even the most intimate details of all their experiences. There really is a lack of balance here. Secondly, men are often very competitive among themselves, particularly when it comes to women. This causes meaningless banter and bravado when they'd be better served with honest communication and the exchanging of ideas.
This is a big issue. Learning about dating, women and romance through open communication with like minded men will mean you will obtain the knowledge to create a more harmonious dating experience. Its a win-win situation, no-one is worse off. You discuss openly, you learn from the honest sharing of ideas, you become wise and through the application of that wisdom, you create joy. Its important men learn to do this for both themselves and the women they love. Yet strangely, the men who do this already are called "players".
So, if you are a single man, you probably know already what I mean. If you are interested in self improvement, particularly when it comes to meeting and dating, you are not a player so don't be afraid. Just find some other men who are already doing this and all will be fine. There are communities of men who are doing this already and have joined together specifically to improve themselves in this manner. The key to this though is to always do it in a manner that is compassionate to the women you are dating.
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