You may or may not know this, but there is an epidemic these days in internet land.
You see, the number of men presenting a creepy image on internet dating sites is rising at an alarming rate.
They don't understand that women have a lot of fears about online dating. The top fear being that the man they are interacting with is a creepy stalker looking for his next woman to harass.
I know it sounds a little crazy, but trust me I have talked to many women, and this is in the back of their minds. Granted there are times women can quickly label someone scary or creepy without good reason, but they do this because most women have had at least one scary encounter with online dating.
You may have even been coming across that way. Not to worry though, if you follow the advice in this article you can be sure you will avoid women seeing you as creepy, thus getting you more responses and more dates.
In order to not be that guy, you must establish that you are a normal, well adjusted one instead. You do this by not writing things or posting pictures that could come across to a woman as creepy. Let's get into some of the things to avoid.
Any kind of sexual innuendo, regardless of how harmless you think it may be, shouldn't be included in your profile or email exchanges. Anything that could be seen as creepy is absolutely to be avoided.
Any joke that you tell, make sure that there isn't a scary or creepy edge to it. You may think you're being clever by saying "don't worry I'm not a crazy stalker", or "I won't kidnap you on our first date". To another man it's obvious you're joking, to a woman even bringing that up will creep her out and scare her away from you.
As far as your pictures are concerned there are quite a few opportunities to creep women out here. Obviously we want to avoid these. Pictures with your shirt off or taken of yourself in your bathroom, which seem to always go together anyways, will do the trick. So will pictures with your ex girlfriend cropped out of them.
Of course the messages you send have just as much chance of setting off the creep alarm. The common theme that I've noticed and talked to women about is men coming on too strong. Telling her it's love at first sight or that you think you're soul mates is not a good idea, and will put you in the creepy category. The same thing goes for giving too many compliments, especially physical ones, and calling her pet names like honey or baby.
Another thing that could scare women is sending multiple messages in a short period of time when she hasn't responded. If a few days go by, and you're checking to see what happened in a casual way, that's fine. However, emailing her a few hours after your last email and saying "WHY HAVEN'T YOU RESPONDED??? DON'T YOU LIKE ME???", isn't a good idea if you don't want to appear like a creeper.
Now, don't let this article give you paralysis by analysis on every message you send out. It's important to not worry too much or put too much importance on any one message you send out. However make sure you are aware of the above mistakes. With those in mind it's a good idea to read over your message a couple of times.
Keep in mind what women fear about online dating sites and think of things from her point of view. If you notice anything which could be perceived as creepy, take it out of your email quick.
Also keeping in mind we don't want to induce a coma in her, does your message have some kind of a hook to spark her interest. If it doesn't think of a little humor, intrigue, or challenge you could throw in there to add something to it that would separate it from all the other boring messages she's receiving.
You see, the number of men presenting a creepy image on internet dating sites is rising at an alarming rate.
They don't understand that women have a lot of fears about online dating. The top fear being that the man they are interacting with is a creepy stalker looking for his next woman to harass.
I know it sounds a little crazy, but trust me I have talked to many women, and this is in the back of their minds. Granted there are times women can quickly label someone scary or creepy without good reason, but they do this because most women have had at least one scary encounter with online dating.
You may have even been coming across that way. Not to worry though, if you follow the advice in this article you can be sure you will avoid women seeing you as creepy, thus getting you more responses and more dates.
In order to not be that guy, you must establish that you are a normal, well adjusted one instead. You do this by not writing things or posting pictures that could come across to a woman as creepy. Let's get into some of the things to avoid.
Any kind of sexual innuendo, regardless of how harmless you think it may be, shouldn't be included in your profile or email exchanges. Anything that could be seen as creepy is absolutely to be avoided.
Any joke that you tell, make sure that there isn't a scary or creepy edge to it. You may think you're being clever by saying "don't worry I'm not a crazy stalker", or "I won't kidnap you on our first date". To another man it's obvious you're joking, to a woman even bringing that up will creep her out and scare her away from you.
As far as your pictures are concerned there are quite a few opportunities to creep women out here. Obviously we want to avoid these. Pictures with your shirt off or taken of yourself in your bathroom, which seem to always go together anyways, will do the trick. So will pictures with your ex girlfriend cropped out of them.
Of course the messages you send have just as much chance of setting off the creep alarm. The common theme that I've noticed and talked to women about is men coming on too strong. Telling her it's love at first sight or that you think you're soul mates is not a good idea, and will put you in the creepy category. The same thing goes for giving too many compliments, especially physical ones, and calling her pet names like honey or baby.
Another thing that could scare women is sending multiple messages in a short period of time when she hasn't responded. If a few days go by, and you're checking to see what happened in a casual way, that's fine. However, emailing her a few hours after your last email and saying "WHY HAVEN'T YOU RESPONDED??? DON'T YOU LIKE ME???", isn't a good idea if you don't want to appear like a creeper.
Now, don't let this article give you paralysis by analysis on every message you send out. It's important to not worry too much or put too much importance on any one message you send out. However make sure you are aware of the above mistakes. With those in mind it's a good idea to read over your message a couple of times.
Keep in mind what women fear about online dating sites and think of things from her point of view. If you notice anything which could be perceived as creepy, take it out of your email quick.
Also keeping in mind we don't want to induce a coma in her, does your message have some kind of a hook to spark her interest. If it doesn't think of a little humor, intrigue, or challenge you could throw in there to add something to it that would separate it from all the other boring messages she's receiving.
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